You know, what's really respectable is people who can be indifferent to a matter of a sort and yet still care for the person that they have a scruff with. Being able to not let a situation bother you, yet being able to show care.

No no no, that wasn't applying to like bgr's, but rather friends rubbing off badly with other friends. Obviously totally ignoring and disregarding a situation is not a good idea, and caring about the situation and letting it bother you isn't either. Learning to accept people. Tough.